A week or two ago one of my Facebook friends, my 20-something ex-stepnephew, wrote this post:
When you see a homeless person begging at say, a road intersection corner, with a scratty cardboard sign, do you give them a dollar, perhaps more; if not, how do you react to those who do hand it out?
The answers he received ranged from this one:
F--- 'em. I work for my money. Most panhandlers, according to MULTIPLE studies, make about eleven dollars an hour. I feel no pity. Also, half of those guys are on wellfare and NOT HOMELESS.
to this one:
I feel guilty if I don't and gullible if I do - can't win
and everything in between. It's a question I've wrestled with and have come to this conclusion, which is what I posted back to my Friend: I don't care how much they make an hour; it's a terrible way to live. I give out of gratitude for what I have.
I didn't bother to expound on some other reasons I give, without feeling gullible:
- Many people who ask for money on the street are homeless through no fault of their own, including military veterans, the mentally ill (we closed their facilities and kicked them out), and others;
- Even if they choose the life they live, they are much more likely to be sick or wounded than others;
- They are easy prey and are often attacked;
- There aren't enough shelters even if they wanted to go to them, and if they have a cart full of "stuff" they can't take it in with them;
- Sure they drink and drug. If you lived on the street you'd probably want something to help ease that pain too.
- No, they can't just "get a job" because they don't have an address or a place to get presentable enough to appear for an interview.
I could go on. Have you ever really seen the people who ask you for money? Some of them are obviously not as old as they look; they're just beat up by life on the street.
Here's what happened in Grants Pass, Oregon, on Monday. I was parked at Walmart * (Have you noticed, they've changed the way they spell their name? It used to be WAL-MART; now it's lower case with a little flower at the end: supposed to give us a friendlier, more hometown feeling instead of a giant blood-sucking corporate behemoth feeling. At least, that's what some guy on the radio said, but I digress.)
To digress a bit more, you need to know that Michelle has privacy windows. I can see out but you have to put your hands to the glass and peer in to see me. Thus I am accorded a view of people who are unaware of being watched, which can be very entertaining and enlightening.
This past Monday I was getting ready to leave Oregon around 11 a.m. when a small brown pickup truck pulled into the space next to me. It was already hot and their windows and mine were open, so when their engine stopped I heard a woman say "I don't lie to you, you know. I will answer any question you have." I didn't hear what her companion replied. As usual when someone parks that close to me, I lowered the window curtain so they couldn't see me even if they tried, which means I didn't see what happened next, but I heard the truck doors slam and figured they had both gone into Walmart.
About three minutes later I heard the truck door again, so I raised the curtain enough to see that the woman had returned with a piece of cardboard that read "Taco Bell Quick Prep Chunky Beans," which she had apparently retrieved from the restaurant dumpster a few yards away. I watched her use a dull pocket knife to cut about a 12 x 18-inch piece. Then she took a big black marker and made a sign that read, "OUT OF GAS," in very neat, precise lettering.
Of course, I immediately thought, How can you be out of gas when you just drove the truck into that parking space?
But then I thought, Okay, maybe they are really low on gas and need to panhandle for more before they really do run out.
About that time a man with long graying beard and hair road up to the truck on a bicycle. He could have been 40 years old or 60. He handed the woman a piece of paper. "Forty cents," he said, as she folded the paper and put it with some others in a little compartment under the dashboard.
The woman finished her sign, got out of the truck and walked to the nearest cart return corral, where she chose a cart and then looked into a nearby trash receptacle. She was wearing a full-length "granny dress" and her hair was pulled neatly back from her face and tied with an elastic. Her face was tanned and worn. I wondered if she intended to fill up the cart with trash in broad daylight, so I decided to follow her.
By the time I got my shoes on she was nowhere in sight, but before I returned home I glanced into the pickup (the windows were still down) and saw the sign on the seat. I also saw the piece of folded paper in the little compartment under the dash, so I boldly reached in, picked it up, and saw that it was a receipt for cash on bottles returned to Walmart. Aha! Apparently Oregon has a
bottle return law, I thought. (5 cents each, as it turns out.)
When I was once again ensconced in my window seat the woman returned with her cart, from which she unloaded into the back of the pickup two large white plastic bags stuffed with plastic bottles she had obviously scrounged from the trash cans at Walmart and the other stores in the complex. Then she left again on foot, without her sign.
As I was preparing to leave, the man came back on his bike, looked around for his partner and, not finding her, took off again. I left a five-dollar bill on the front seat of the truck, under the sign, hoping she would get to it before he did, and then wondering if she would tell him she had it.
On the way out of the parking lot I encountered a truly pitiful looking woman trying in vain to keep cool in the shade of a young tree. I don't know what her sign said, I just reached for some quarters and rolled down the passenger side window. When she came to take the money, I saw that she was in pretty bad shape. She could have been 20 or 50. She took the money and croaked something that I assume was a thank you. I rolled up the automatic window on my air conditioned home on wheels and left her there.
Praise the Universe from Whence All Blessings Flow...if you happen to be in the right place, at the right time, with enough dough.
PS: Yesterday I saw a woman on the street with a sign that said, no kidding, "Will Take Verbal Abuse for Spare Change."
PPS: Still working on that sonnet for you.
This is my first view of the Pacific when I came down the last mountain. It's a bit more what I expected the coast to look like (those birds are pelicans, a flying squadron that reminded me of my stay in Florida last winter).
This is a pretty lousy photo but I just had to show you the cows. Why don't they fall in?
Here's the home and barn that I couldn't fit in the cattle shot. Who knew you could raise cattle so close to the ocean?
I tried like crazy to get a decent shot of these immense redwoods and this is the best I could do, through the windshield as I passed through the really old, big ones in the protected area. The ones around here are tiny in comparison, at only a yard in diameter and 50-60 feet tall. The biggest one I found in these parts (right here in the yard) gave up the ghost a while back and now serves as a great playhouse.
My first view of the Pacific Ocean was rather anticlimactic because of the fog, but I was pretty psyched nonetheless. I stopped at the visitor center, got directions to a good restaurant that had a place to recharge the laptop, and enjoyed my first "California cuisine," turkey pannini with feta, pesto and spinach. You will note that they put garbanzo beans in the salad and tied the setup with a piece of green rattan, neither of which I've ever seen in any restaurant I've frequented: yes, I am in another world now.
I decided to head south to Eureka to spend the night at Walmart. One problem: there ain't no stinkin' Walmart in Eureka, or anywhere close by. Yikes! It was about 8 pm and I didn't have a place to park! I got out my trusty Lesbian Connection directory and found several listings in Eureka. My third phone call was a charm and a lovely couple with their 19-month-old daughter and three dogs welcomed me for the night. Whew! That was a close call. I've never been in a town of 40,000+ that didn't have a Walmart. What's that about? These Californians are a strange breed, indeed.
This is how you design a Walmart in the Pacific Northwest.
And where does this lovely shaded stairway lead?
Why, to the walking track, of course.
These guys are the real deal, you just can't see the cows because I didn't get the shot in time.
I love the clouds in this photo, too.
